Husbands Grandmas decorations...wwyd?

Question

Ok so this is kind of a sensitive topic and i am not really sure how to handle it
My husbands grandma passed away 2 years ago.  At the time, my husband and I had just moved into our new house, and I was 8 months pregnant.  So after she passed, my mother in law dropped off whatever the other kids/grandkids didn’t want off at my house.  
It was a ton of little glass figures, a bunch of wall decor, like wall decor from the 1940s. My husband liked it because it reminded him of his grandparents, and I really was so focused on the new baby coming that decorating was the last thing on my mind and I was like hang whatever I don’t care.  
So now 2 years later I really want to do what I want with our house.  I mean of course I want things that my husband likes too, but my house looks like my husbands grandmas house.  I have a giant mural of Jesus on my wall and I’m Jewish.  Pictures of little kids reading by candle light.  Paintings of woman handwashing clothes in a big field.  Pictures of barns.  Pictures of candles and lanterns.  Paintings of cabins.  Paintings of old men playing the banjo.  A bunch of glass figurines everywhere.  Grandfather clocks.  A bunch of random trinkets on my tables.  My bathroom is even the bathroom stuff she had.  We have her garbage can, the toothbrush holder and cup, and this candle that looks like a flower.  Every room in my house is his grandmas stuff.  My mother in law even gave me her old clothes.  
My husbands family always comments on how much they love being in our house because it reminds them of grandma.   This weekend my husbands cousin was over and I kind of hinted I was thinking about getting rid of some stuff and she was like oh no you can’t get rid of grandmas stuff..... so I was like do you want it and she was like no, it doesn’t really go with anything, I have no room.  
This isn’t the first time his family kind of like passed off what they don’t want but don’t have the heart to get rid of.  I had a daughter recently and my mother in law dropped off boxes and boxes  of dolls that were her daughters-  her daughter has daughters of her own so I suggested maybe giving the dolls to her, and she said no she doesn’t want them. 
My sister in law always tries to sell her kids old toys on Facebook market place.  If no one buys them in a week they end up at my house.  I’ll say it’s ok we have so much stuff, but she’s like no I don’t want to donate them just take them.  The stuff is mounting up. My house is not big at all.  
It’s a sensitive subject.  My husband likes his grandparents stuff, and his family likes our house decorated like his grandparents.  But it’s just not my style.  
How would you handle this? Am I being unreasonable?

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Tell him you want to update the house and make it more comfortable. He’s totally welcome to have grandmas stuff in his office, but you would really feel better about a much more modern look for the main house.
And when his sister drops crap off, make it a point to tell her to leave it on the curb for trash day so you don’t have to drag it out yourself. Maybe that will stop it from coming to you in the first place?

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I say this coming from experience — his family needs therapy.

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Talk to your husband. Then you should decide together what to do. Its your house and you should be comfortable in your own home.

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I would take it all down and decorate how you want. Maybe keep a couple things you like, but the rest needs to go in the trash or it needs to be donated. You’re not the dumping grounds for grandma’s stuff and you shouldn’t let you make them feel bad for not wanting/liking it. YOU’RE NOT GRANDMA.

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Maybe slowly get rid of things that are outta sight outta mind.  
You probably don't have time to do this but sometimes consignment, flea markets and or antique stores will buy the glass figurines or other random objects. Not sure nowadays with covid, could be worth a try. 
Maybe also you could say is that one room can be dedicated to all grandma's things. Or somehow find a way to incorporate a few old things into the decor you actually want. That way you can do you and have some select granny things to make husband not feel like he is losing heirlooms.

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So you need to sit your husband down and have a chat about the stuff because it sounds like you’re extremely unhappy with this situation. In terms of the other things they’re trying to pass on to you - keep a roll of tape and papers that say “FREE!” on them close to the door. When they bring you things, take a paper and tape it to the object and bring it to the curb right in front of them. When they ask what you’re doing, tell them that you don’t want this stuff, you don’t have space for this stuff, so if they’re not taking it with them this is where the stuff they bring will be going from now on. I guarantee you will get results from this and they will stop bringing stuff over.

Husbands Grandmas decorations...wwyd?

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