I had my first ultrasound, labs, and doctor’s appointment yesterday. We were trying to determine dates and viability, because I got pregnant right after my IUD was removed (I did not have a period). I *think* I’m 5w6d today (so 5w5d at my appointment). I had my first very faint positive pregnancy test on 5/20.

During the ultrasound they found a gestational sac and yolk sac, but no fetal pole. This made sense to me, as I know the fetal pole isn’t generally visible until 6 1/2 weeks or later. My hcg was 8,000 which is right in range for 5w5d.

My doctor, however, was like, “Well, no fetal pole. You’re probably having a miscarriage. You’ll likely start bleeding over the weekend.”

And I thought that was so crappy!!! She completely stole my joy and hope, and had no care or compassion for me and this wanted pregnancy. Especially because I don’t think it’s unreasonable based on the data we have to assume that it was just too early to see the fetal pole.

Am I off base here? Am I in denial?