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My husband and I got into a bit of an argument last night bc I test every month. He thinks I’m obsessed with being pregnant. He thinks I’m trying to get pregnant again. Like... I wouldn’t be upset if I did get pregnant, but I know right now is FAR from ideal because of our financial situation. Which is why I’m on birth control. Among other reasons. I have tried explaining to him that the only reason I test the way I do is so if I DO end up pregnant, I can take the necessary steps to come off of medications that could harm an unborn baby. (Most of my meds shouldn’t be taken during pregnancy...) so no, I don’t exactly WANT to get pregnant at this time. I want to get myself in a better mental position and better financial position before deciding to try for another if we were to. (BUT I know things can happen even when you’re not trying...) he literally makes me feel insane for trying to be safe. He even made up scenarios where I “got mad because he didn’t see a line on a test” that I didn’t even show him. 🤦🏻‍♀️I’ve literally shown him 3 or 4 tests over the past year bc I thought I saw something. Which was obviously not a positive test anyway which is fine. Tell me, am I just crazy? Or do y’all think I’m being reasonable by testing every month to make sure even though we’re not trying?

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How often are you testing? There is a big difference between a test if you are late and testing twice a day starting at 8 dpo.  Perhaps just stop involving him?

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I’d just take one only if you’re late and maybe use condoms too if you’re both worried at this point.

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You are definitely kind of obsessed if you’re on bc and testing before you’re even late. I don’t think he should be getting that upset about it,but there is definitely a conversation that needs to be had because testing that much when not TTC is not normal

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If you are on bc and not actively ttc I do t see a reason to test unless you are late. I could see why that would drive him nuts. Do you actually want a baby deep down and obsessively test in hopes you will be positive?

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I personally think it’s excessive to test when on birth control before you have missed your period. 
I always keep a box of tests on hand even on BC just in case I am late I can test.

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I mean I don’t know why he’d get mad about it but what’s the point of testing all the time if you’re on birth control. I’d think it’s a little obsessive and that you were secretly not taking your BC. Just my thoughts on it

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I think it's excessive to be testing monthly when on birth control. I'd understand taking a test if you were late for a period but there's zero reason to test before a missed period when using protection. Honestly, it's a waste of money and adds unnecessary stress to you and him.

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I don't think you are crazy but I think testing every month when you are on birth control is excessive. Are you taking a lot of tests ? Are you yelling him every time ?
I could understand why he would think it's excessive if you are doing this every month and telling him about it every time. 
If you still feel like you need to test maybe just take a quick test if you are late and not discuss it with him unless it's obviously positive?  It may be stressing him out.

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I think it is crazy for you to be testing every month… you’re on birth control… if you take it as prescribed there shouldn’t be any worry about getting pregnant

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I think it’s a bit much especially if you’re testing before your expected period. I’d probably only test if I were late, felt symptoms or trying to conceive.

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