So my sister and I got pregnant at about the same time. I miscarried at 12 weeks and well she is still pregnant and having a baby shower in 2 weeks. I'm torn, I want to go but also don't want to go and see her and her baby bump, it breaks my heart. I feel like she doesn't care about my feelings as all she said was this is the date and time better see you there. I have written her a nice letter explaining my feelings and wishing her and her fiance the best but I'm not sure if I should send it, or just go to the shower, which I feel like I won't stay for the whole thing.