How would you react to this dr?

I went to an endocrinologist today for thyroid issues. First time seeing her. As soon as I walked in she took one look at me and asked if I was taking metformin. I said no. I had taken it several years ago for PCOS when I wasn’t in a relationship and still a virgin (no intentions to have a baby at the time) and I hated all the side effects. She asked me why I’m not on it in a rude way. I’m short and plus size….I get it, I’m not thin like her and not a model human. I had a baby last June and haven’t lost much weight so I probably looked awful to her and I felt like she was just judging me the whole time. Then she started to say I needed to lose 30 lbs. 🥺

She told me that I would need to go through more tests to find out if I really have PCOS because she doesn’t believe that the previous dr did the tests the right way to diagnose me. Then told me that I would need to schedule a different apt with her to go over it all and get metformin. 🤦🏻‍♀️

We talked for a few minutes about the first round of clomid I’m taking next cycle and told me to take metformin. Again, it felt like it’s her go to pill pushing speech and it was making me mad after I had declined metformin several times. Then she looks at my chart, probably not realizing I had a baby, and tells me I’m Pre diabetic and if I have a baby I’ll most likely need insulin for my pregnancy. Then I told her I had a baby last June and her time changed and she said metformin will help for diabetes and will be better for me. I get that, but they way she said everything up until that point was basically, without metformin I won’t have a viable pregnancy and if I do I’ll definitely be on insulin.

She then went on to say that whoever prescribed me clomid is a disgrace to fertility drs because all clomid will do is violently force my overies to pop out an egg while metformin will help with ovulation. It was my OB/GYN. I trust her more then this dr.

She then told me that because of my thyroid issues I will need to NOT take clomid and either abstain from sex or have my husband wear a condom. I have been tracking ovulation since my period came back from baby #1 because we want to try for a March, april, may, June or July 2022 baby if we are blessed with one. She is literally asking me to give up something my husband and I have been trying to do for so long. I was getting pretty emotional by this point. She straight up told me that if I get pregnant and get put on thyroid medication then I am hurting my fetus. I said “baby” and she told me “fetus” again. 😱 She said it will be a waste of her time if I get pregnant before she does all kinds of tests on me and that I would need to not have sex to get pregnant for about 2-3 months. 😭

You guys, I can’t not try for a baby. It took my husband and I 2 1/2 years for our first one and it could take that long again. Im in my early 30’s and don’t want to give up an opportunity to try.

Is anyone else on thyroid medication for hyperthyroidism and still went through a pregnancy?

Is this dr mean or am I crazy?

I literally left her office to go get blood work done and cried in the elevated. I feel awful!

EDIT: I have had an ultrasound and there are 4 large nodes. I will need a biopsy. I did baseline blood work 6 weeks ago from my GP who sent me to an ENT who told me to go an endocrinologist. I was only going to test for any of this because I have hair loss and was feeling tired and weak all the time. That’s how we know so far that I am hyper instead of hypo.