Visitors after birth/thompson method

I've heard so many story's and it does make me feel quite nervous to think about, my birth plan is being made on the 13th and I keep thinking about everything I know I want, need and need to say for the plan (if things go as planned of course) I don't have a huge family group my family is really small, alot of people in my family have been quite nascist and I don't want to push them out but I want to protect her from those people, my mother keeps demanding that she wants to be there and that I have to tell her when I'm in labor so that she can hold my hand and hold my daughter and after everything I've been through I don't want to do that, I want to have a one and one birth with only me and my partner, I want to be able to bond with my child after birth, I want to be able to hold them straight after birth and hold them for the hours your aloud to have with them with your stay inside the hospital, I want to try to do the tompson method I know that's something I want and need and I know many woman have had some bad expirences like the nurses taking the baby away straight away or pushing the baby onto your breast without asking like not allowing things to happen naturally and I really want that, is there any advice someone can give me about how I should make that none with what I want/need? My brother also asked the same question about holding her straight after birth and I just don't believe I can do that, I just don't want to pass her around like its pass the passel I want it to just be us, I feel as though I'm going to have problems with this after birth and I really just need some advice, I got out of the nascist abuse 5 years ago and I hate that I feel like I'm bringing it back in, I hate that people think it's okay to crawl there way back in because they find out your having a baby, I don't want to push my mother or family away but I want to keep them at good distance is that a bad thing? Please let me know what you think or your own story I'm 26 weeks & 3 days today and the further I get along that anxiety keeps keeping back in about what's going to happen I need some weight lifted off my should about it 💗