Overprotective mom 🥲

I’m a FTM and admit I can be a little overprotective when it comes to my daughter and I’m expecting baby #2 in December but is it wrong if I don’t really feel comfortable with my in laws watching my daughter? They have said I’m too attached to my daughter and need to let loose but making sure my daughter is okay and knows I’m there for her shouldn’t be looked at wrong to them. They have also said manyyyyyy things that were hurtful in the past to disrespect me that I can’t let go of. I tell my boyfriend he needs to defend me or I will never feel comfortable leaving our daughter with his in laws but he doesn’t tell them anything if anything he defends them. I’m just not sure what’s the best thing to do. It’s kinda making me resent them in a way and not want to talk to them anymore. I have no one else to talk to so it’s pretty tough just keeping it all in 😣