Disagreement with SO….

Never thought I i would get yelled at and called stupid for this. So it was 10pm and our 9 month old baby boy was fussy/hungry and ready for bed(mind you he is also sick) So his dad picked him up on the couch and told him to cut the crying out and whatnot so I was like “come on mommy baby”, just being a mom like always. His dad says” see thats his problem now, you are gonna make him soft, you are gonna be the reason if he’s gay” i immediately picked my son up and went into the kitchen to finish making his bottle and told my son that whatever he chose in life, I would support him either way. His dad heard me saying that and called me Stupid and he hadn’t talked to me since and is sleeping on the couch tonight. Idk what’s wrong with what I said🙄 but i think its so sad that it was even a disagreement in the first place…