Just venting on MIL crap ….again

I’m just sitting here shaking my head over MILs. When I first met her, she was nasty and pissy to me. I’m significantly older than my husband so I guess it was a big shock for her. She actually told me I should’ve asked her before I started dating him. He wasn’t a child, he was 23 years old so why would I ask her if it’s ok to date him? Y’all, when he took me to meet her, she slammed the door in our faces.

Another time, his family had a gathering at his grandmothers house and he invited me. He told her I was coming. She told him she was inviting his ex. He asked her not to because his ex had been making threats against me. Of course she invited her anyway when I found out she was there, I got my daughter and told him we needed to leave. He left with us. On my way out the house I see her standing outside talking to his ex and I walk straight to my car. She hollers at me “Hey you can’t say bye”? To me that’s just tryna start shit and I wasn’t for it.

My husband was just telling me that she made a comment today that she hopes I’m not trying to separate him from his family and that he needs to tell me that. He said he told her that I am his family more so than anyone else and that I’ve never said negative things about her. She scoffed and said she didn’t believe that. It’s true. I don’t talk about her to him; I talk about her to y’all! Then she starts telling him that he spends time with my family and not his family. Trust me, it’s not like that. We split the holidays.

We’ve been together 6 years but only got married this past February. My husband has a close relationship with his Mom. They argue and fuss and say harsh shit to each other but in the end they’re thick as thieves. That’s an important relationship for him and I wanna be able to get along with her. Even though I’m happy our marriage/family/relationship comes first for him, I don’t want him getting into arguments with his Mom over me.