Would this bother you, or am I weird?

***UPDATE***

Just to clarify, by 'voice message' she means a feature of messaging apps like Whatsapp where you can record a voice message directly into the messaging window as an alternative to typing a message - she doesn't mean to call and leave a traditional voice message. In her VM asking me to send VMs not texts, she originally said to "..leave VMs or call" before quickly saying "..actually, don't call, I don't have time to talk on the phone, leave VMs only." lol.

Anyways, thanks for all your replies. They make me feel better about feeling bothered by her demands which I just felt were very unreasonable, unfair, and as mentioned already, super patronising (and kind of self-centred too). So, thanks for confirming I'm not insane. Xxx

***ORIGINAL POST***

A good friend of mine had a baby five days ago.

Since then, I haven't contacted her much as I've been trying to give her and her partner space to enjoy and adapt to having a new little one in their lives. I sent a msg a few days ago saying I hope it's all going well.

Surprisingly she responded almost immediately and was very eager to catch up for a walk some time this week and wanted to know when would work for me. I replied with details of my schedule, but left it to her to decide what would be suitable.

She didn't reply for a day or so - totally expected and I didn't think much of it.

This morning, she sends me a voice message saying from now on I need to send her VMs only - no more texts as she doesn't want to spend time looking at her phone instead of her baby and using (what I felt was) very patronising language (and tone) like "Sorry, but when you have a little one, you just can't be using your phone..." and blah blah blah.

Firstly, how much time you spend on your phone is your prerogative but does not mean you can dictate to me the type of messages I can and can't send. I'm not a VM kind of person....I use them when I simply can't use my hands to type but otherwise, I often send messages while I'm in my office and I'm not about to start sending VMs in an open plan office surrounded by colleagues. If my behaviour were somehow dangerous to your baby - like I was smoking in front of them or something - sure, you have every right to ask me to stop, but telling me I can no longer send written text messages.... is that okay or normal? Don't read them if you don't want to!

Secondly, it's not like I had inundated her with text messages and demanded a reply. I sent one and then a reply to hers...

Lastly, (I know you guys didn't 'hear' the message, but) what's with the patronising tone of voice? She's been a mother for five days and feels the need to explain to me what motherhood is all about like I don't have a big enough brain to imagine that once you've had a baby, they become your key focus and centre of your world...

I'm pregnant too, by the way, not that it matters, but now I'm just at a loss as to how or whether to respond. I'm not allowed to send texts, but I'm not about to start sending VMs as that's just not what I'm about!

What do you guys think? Am I weird?

Thanks for reading my rant. Xx