She said she’s not comfortable coming over but won’t tell us why? Do I just stop inviting her over? In the 8 years I’ve been married I think she’s come to our house maybe 6 times? She usually drops a plate of cookies on the doorstep or she tags along with my sister in law when she comes to see us but she’s never gone out of her way to come see us and always has an excuse when invited. And when I say out of her way she lives less than 10 minutes away from us but drives almost daily to see her daughter who lives 20 minutes away. We’ve tried talking to her but she just doesn’t see it. She claims it’s different and the last thing she said to my husband was that she just doesn’t love him as much as she loves her other kids. Yet she wants us to go out of our way to go see her?

I know im probably biased because she’s not my mother but I don’t feel the kind of pressure from my parents that I feel from my mother in law. And then there’s the fact that she literally told my husband she doesn’t love him?? What kind of mother says that!? A few weeks after that happened he got a call from his dad telling him that his mother was sad she didn’t get a happy birthday text?? Or a happy Mother’s Day?? From my perspective she 1. Wouldn’t have wanted it anyways and 2. Didn’t deserve it but I’m just at a loss. I don’t want to hate her the rest of my life but I’m having such a hard time forgiving her and being the bigger person. I don’t want to negatively influence my husband in any way but honestly if I never saw her again that’s be okay with me!