Is there something wrong with me?

Question

Hello, I just got out of a long term breakup. I don’t know if anyone else feels this way but I feel like I don’t find anyone attractive anymore, I don’t feel sexual tensions with anyone. Guys try to kiss me and I just get weirded out, I’m 20 and I feel like everyone at my age is going out, having sex, and just living their best life. While I can’t even imagine having sex with anyone else. My ex he was my first and I felt very comfortable with him I always wanted affection and attention. Now that I’m single, I just can’t do that with anyone else I don’t feel anything and it isn’t even pleasurable. I don’t know what’s wrong with me I feel like people my age should be open to these things sadly I’m not like that I wish I was just so I can feel how they feel. I’m talking to a new guy and I’m starting to catch feelings but whenever he leans in for a kiss I back up and feel grossed out. I don’t know with my ex in the beginning I was the same but eventually all I ever wanted was kisses and hugs from him. But it took almost a year for me to be that way. I don’t know if there’s just something wrong with me or what? Anyone else? I feel so alone with this…

Answer

It's totally fine to be this way- a lot of people are like this. Demisexuals come to mind. 
I am not demisexual, but I also need to get used to someone before getting intimate with them. 
Hook up culture isn't for everyone, we should just do what feels right & healthy for us. Everyone is different, and it's valid to need time to feel close enough to be physically intimate.

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I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I do think you should take some time and discover who you are yourself.  You've been in a relationship for a long time and that can shape how you become. You need to find out who you are without a partner. What things you like and enjoy and what you don't. I had been in a relationship since I was 14, 4 years with one guy then 1.5 with another pretty much back to back. I didn't know what kind of person I was when those relationships dissolved. Funnily enough I met my husband when I decided I wanted to not date and figure things out. We were friends for a few months before we started dating. Good luck with which ever path you walk!

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There is nothing wrong with that. I personally think women should make sure a man is commited before giving kisses and sexual energy. Why? Because during sex chemicals are released that cause a women to bond to a man. Its the same chemicals that cause a baby and mother to bond during breast feeding. He should show u he is loyal, honest, trust worthy, respectful and honor u before he gets access to that side of u in my opinion lol. You may even be demisexual. Nothing wrong with it. Im the same way.

Is there something wrong with me?

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