my boyfriend and i have been together for just over a year, and it’s by far the healthiest relationship i’ve ever been in/seen even in other people. whenever we have an issue we discuss it calmly and sensibly and compromise or sort it out very soon after the issue has come up. we have a very healthy sex life and want the same things long term. we also have stayed together for extended periods of time and know we can live together should we need to.

he is honestly like a best friend that i have sex with and we just get on so well - we talk and cuddle and everything is harmonious 95% of the time. i have a large group of very close friends, and everyone who has met him ADORES him and says how good we are together.

we have discussed long term plans and he says he wants to marry me eventually, and kind of proposed to me last night. he says it was a joke but i don’t think it was as i said no. the ONLY reason i said no was the amount of time we’ve been together and our age - we are both almost 20. i am in uni and i have always thought i don’t want to get married until after i graduate.

however, i want to marry him definitely, and i know he feels the same way, but is it too early to know? and would it be irresponsible?? we’d have a tiny ceremony with only close friends in the woods with flowers and wine and fruit, and not tell anyone else. then, after i graduate, we’d have a big celebration with everyone there and it would be like the “official” one even though we’d already be legally married.

am i being crazy?? have we not been together long enough?? we’ve been through some tough times individually and it hasn’t affected our relationship, and we’ve been long distance and that has worked too. i just really can’t see any reason why we would split up? please help me. i really want to but my brain is saying im too young, but is 19 really too young?