Cheating husband… can there be true restoration?

Question

We just welcomed our 2nd child into this world last Sunday.  She is perfect… the pregnancy however was not.  When I was 5 months pregnant I found out my husband had been cheating with a woman at work for the last 8 months sexually and emotionally. This child was not an accident she was planned and prayed about. I found out after finding something on his phone. Finally after two days of badgering I got the full truth that he had been living a double life for the last 8 months. He hid it from me so perfectly and she knew about me. They had rules that she couldn’t call or text him first, he would have to reach out to her (what kind of woman is okay with being a home wrecker), they had sex at work never in my home, he didn’t have her number saved in his phone but memorized it, he worked in a factory that worked swing shift 12 hrs rotating night and days every 6 weeks. 
I have decided to stay and try to make it work but now that I am postpartum I believe I am starting to become extremely depressed from the situation. He quit his job at the factory, changed his phone number, we are in marriage counseling, and has discipleship study with a leader in our church. I am a strong believer in Christ and that everything happens according to his plan. But I have been trying to work on this for over 3 months now… I don’t know if I can get past this. Any advice??

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He betrayed you for 8 months. That’s a lot harder to look past than cheating one time. I could never get passed that.

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My husband cheated on me and I discovered it when I was pregnant with my first child. He just came clean and admitted it. It was also with someone that he worked with and she had even attended our wedding. We ended up staying together and working on everything. It’s not something that going to get fixed over night. Therapy for yourself would probably be very beneficial and also talking to your doctor about feeling depressed as postpartum depression will make things worse for your situation. My husband and I have been able to make things work and are in a much better place. We both needed to make changes to get there. I want to give you hope that you can work it out and things can get better if it’s truly what you both want. But it takes time to be able to forgive and build trust. We are currently waiting for our 3rd baby to arrive any day now.

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my husband was cheating on my thoughts it my whole pregnancy as well, and he wants a divorce bc i caught him . when i first found out , i stayed and made it work and found it on my heart to move on from it, he told me a week before i was about to give birth to tell me he doesn’t wanna be with me anymore , my pregnancy was planned as well. unfortunately a man will only stay when it’s in HIS best interest. i’m not saying that staying is a bad thing but you cannot have your guard down, bc even tho YOU might think everything is good, he may not. I never forgave him for what he did to me , and i never will, but i can move on and focus on MY well-being , and i suggest you do the same, always wondering if they’re going to do it again , or the lack of trust and the sadness is not worth a marriage . ever, bc it enables the repeat behavior bc they know you won’t leave. you need to do what’s best for you, and if you choose to stay you gotta be ready to face the hard days and sleepless nights

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I wish you all the best 🤗 This is not the end of the world, you are stronger than that.
Whatever happens, I wish you loving and caring husband ❤ 
You get what you wish for 🙂

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i found out my husband cheated on me as well while i was pregnant on mother’s day (worst day of my life .. we’re in couples therapy it’s definitely not easy and definitely coping postpartum has been a struggle especially dealing with both a toddler (22 months) and a newborn she’ll be 3 weeks on monday. i pray everyday it’s going to get easier .. therapy does help it has gotten a bit easier especially since we both go separately once a week  and then we meet together  every other week .. i just think time will help i definitely still don’t trust my husband but i’m learning to
love him again and never let my guard down.. at first i was doing it for my kids but i knew that wasn’t enough so we started basically “dating again” every week and that’s also helped  to get to know each other again

Cheating husband… can there be true restoration?

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