How often does your baby see their grandparents?

Asking for those who live in the same city as your parents.

This is the first grandbaby for both my side and my husband’s side. The problem I’m having is that my family is pretty much expecting us to go over every week to let them spend time with the baby. We have our own business which takes a lot of our time during the week, and sometimes even the weekends. So we really look forward to our time together (me and my husband) with the baby and would really rather not spend so much time with other family as well. It’s just exhausting when you have a 1 month old.

For example, this week my mom saw the baby 3x. Once me and her went out to shop with the baby, once I left him with her to get some work done in the house for a few hours, and the last time she just randomly stopped by to see him. Now it’s Saturday and my dad just called asking to stop by because he hasn’t seen the baby all week. So there is now an unspoken rule that they each need to see him once a week, which may not sound like a lot but like I said our schedule and lives are hectic right now.

Btw - I’m hesitant to leave him with them because after many times that I have told them babies this little don’t need water, I caught my mom giving him water by dipping his binky in and giving it to him. After I repeatedly told them the doc said no water until he’s a year. This and other situations have happened that lead to me thinking they don’t respect me as a mother. So I guess you could say I’m having a boundary problem.

Any advice?

Are you letting your parents spend this much time with your baby? Preferably those who are SAHM or work from home, not using their parents as childcare etc. Sorry this is all over the place.