Hubby is mad at me for what I said about MIL - thoughts, did i over react?!

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I brought up the question of what else we should get my MIL for her upcoming bday this week. Hub said "we get her more grandchildren for her bday". Then i instantly responded w/o thinking how it came across: "they are MY kids, not a present for her. We get her her OWN present, just for her, on her bday. I have some gift ideas" .... Well the whole "my kids thing" really threw him off and he gave me the silent treatment, i feel so bad because he rarely gets mad 😫 but heres the mini back story to my dumb knee-jerk reaction:
That remark triggered me for 2 reasons - 1. He never wants to put any thought into what to get her for her bday, I always end up getting the gifts and he knows it irritated me. And 2. My MIL is so involved in my babys daily life to the point where I have a huge anxiety about the thought of my children seeing my MIL as the "parent" (she says things all the time like "i cant wait until you have more kids so i can steal Kira (our daughter) while you take care of the next baby" or "she is the love of my life, the love i feel is incredible, i dont know if you know what I mean")... Of course i know what you mean I AM HER MUMMY 😫
Was i totally out of line guys?

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Yeah that sounded like an overreaction. Grandparents are excited to have grandchildren, your concern is a common one but many grandparents act like this. It doesn't mean she ACTUALLY wants to replace you or steal your daughter.

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Ehh, I might be the odd one out but I’d have an issue with her being a huge part of their daily life if it was that excessive to the point that she was basically like another parent. I wouldn’t want anyone parenting my kids so I get where you’re coming from with that one. She can always have another kid 🤷🏽‍♀️

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I think your reaction was spot on 
Given that she’s over involved when it comes to your kids, I can see why you said that and you ARE right 
Your kids are not a gift to her. 
Now that may have just been a sneaky way for your husband to tell you he wants more kids rather than it really being about a gift for her

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You sound jealous that they're a major part of your kids life and worried they will think of them more as a parent then you.  You definitely overreacted. He was clearly making a joke or a light hearted comment and you took it deep for no reason. They're not just your kids, they're his too.

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I think its a bit of an overreaction on his part but honestly u should take a step back. You should be grateful u have a mil so heavily invested and full of love for any kids u have. Thats truly a blessing. Someone who loves your children and is as invested as u is a gem. Dont see it as a threat... see it as an abundance of love and support.

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You’re absolutely correct

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I think you might have overreacted but your feelings are completely valid. I think this needs to be a conversation that you come back to with your husband. Just express what you’ve written here.

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I think you overreacted. He was probably just making a joke. You should be glad your kid has a present grandparent

Hubby is mad at me for what I said about MIL - thoughts, did i over react?!

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