So I came out to my best friend (I’m bi). We were having a conversation about her love life and some guy that likes her and as a joke I told her don’t break his heart. We had a whole conversation about her and then we moved on to how she could tell if I ever lied to her. I just couldn’t do it anymore and I said “well you don’t know everything about me” she was predictably very confused and I said “there are just things about me don’t tell anybody” she was still super confused we had this whole conversation where I told her the only person that knows this about me is my brother. I was so nervous and just couldn’t get it out I literally shaking and my heart was racing. She could tell it was a sensitive and complicated topic and asked is it something you need a certain maturity for? I said to some extent. She just turned to me and said “it’s ok” that was to moment I realized she had figured it out I almost cried, but I was in class so we waited until the bell rang and we went outside away from people and, she didn’t want to assume so she said “you’re a part of a community” she said “you know I love you and this changes nothing, if I didn’t you would still be a part of my life” and just hugged my hard. I was so scared to tell her because I thought she would see me differently. Remember you fear is valid but don’t let it control you some people might surprise you.