How to deal with a vicious divorce

Going through a nasty divorce. We’ve been together for 17 years, married for 5 and have 2 kids.

None of “our friends” have reached out to me since I left due to DV. I left and removed myself from social media and they all pounced on what he said to them! Never getting my side. He’s talked so much shit about me they all think I have mental health issues and is having some sort of breakdown. I’m mean this jerk even alleged all of this in the initial divorce filing and submitted it to the court as factual. Nothing in my medical history proves any of this 🤷🏻‍♀️ accused me of kidnapping the kids even.

Now the videos I have from the day I left, I’d love to send them to all his “friends” and family showing his true colors but I’m trying to be the bigger person and keep kids best interests at the forefront of all of this.

playing in a fantasy football league with everyone for years and just got an email they dropped me from the league. 40 year old adults couldn’t have a conversation with me that I’ve know for 17 years! But I guess I should’ve expected it, these same adults canceled hair appointments on me because the girl I went to was one of the wives.

Yea you read that right, the actual stylist confirmed with me on a Thursday and her husband called me Friday to cancel saying he had just heard the news (not from me) and I was inappropriate for keeping an appointment that had been booked for months 🤦🏻‍♀️ oh and she rents a chair at a salon, not even in business with her husband 🤷🏻‍♀️

I know it’s for the best but it’s another blow until everything is settled in court and people realize his true colors. I mean I could write several lifetime stories.

He filed for divorce when I asked for separation and therapy despite the DV, filed taxes separately and collected the kids refunds and stimulus checks even though we were married all of 2020 and now as a result gets an extra $600 a month for the kids, withdrew $16,000 from our savings and closed the account. I could go on and on 🤦🏻‍♀️ and his side knows none of this, I’m a bitter mentally unstable person taking his kids away from him (because he got the standard every other weekend)

I just want to hit fast forward and be done with it all. The part that kills me the most though is the nasty vindictive vicious comments he makes about me to everyone we know.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with it? I keep my mouth shut and turn the other cheek so to speak but it’s getting tiring. He’s either saying it to others or to me through the COURT ORDERED App we have to use for communication as there’s a restraining order in place preventing calls and texts except in cases of emergencies and the nightly facetimes with the kids. I left because of the abuse and continue to be verbally/emotionally abused. This mama can’t take it anymore I just want him to stop!