Mother in laws and friends staying

Hello ladies, would love your perspectives and experiences in having your mum/mother in law/well meaning friends coming to stay for extended periods to help after birth.

A bit of context… my husband and I are pregnant with our first baby. We are so blessed that everyone is really excited.

My mother in law is already planning her days for coming to stay, and one of my best friends - who I love like a sister (but honestly can be a little overbearing because of her caring nature)- has also offered her help to come stay a few weeks to help out.

My friend is insisting that straight after birth you need a lot of help. And that I have no idea what’s in store for me.

She doesn’t have children yet but has experience with her niece and taking care of a lot of other peoples babies.

My husband and I both to be honest really love (and need!) our personal space.

I find the idea stressful that there will be more people here on top of us adjusting to a new baby.

I really want to tell her thank you so much and I’m so blessed to have her in my life. But we want to figure it out ourselves, as it’s a new adventure for us!

But I have no idea!! 🤷🏻‍♀️ what it is really like those first weeks. Perhaps I’ll be crying for help! 🤣

Any mums with experience to share here? Did you have help straight after birth or just with your partner? What do you advise?