Please help!!💗🥺

Okay I have a question. This may be a trigger warning!!

So my son just turned 2 on the 21st! Just like any other two year old he throws tantrums but it gets to the point where I have to blow in this face to make him breathe. His lips will turn blue. That concerns me to begin with but the other day he was playing with my husbands (his dads) work boots and they are obviously filthy and I told him no. I put them up, he got them again (happened another two times) so I literally tapped his hand. note: I don’t spank my child to the point where he cries I rarely “spank” him! That little tap made him cry then he wanted me and I didn’t want to coddle him so I let him be. But he was crying so bad that I picked him up while I was sitting on the chair. He was blue in his lips so I blew in his face but he didn’t catch his breath I panicked and laid him down on the floor and was yelling breathe his eyes were wide open and it honestly scared the crap out of me but he caught his breath. While I laid him on the floor my husband was asking what was wrong like the clueless idiot he is, like I knew what was happening with him. I finally got him calmed down. He snuggled with me for a while and I was telling my husband that this wasn’t normal and we need to go to the doctor. So I FaceTimed my Mother in law to ask for her advice/opinion. She tells me that it’s normal and nothing is wrong with him and that I’m just overreacting. Because she had 3 kids and she just knows everything. I really don’t think that’s normal! He’s a healthy boy and I guess I’m just terrified about something happening to him. I just want more advice/opinions on this! He hasn’t done it again.

I’m NEVER “spanking” my child ever again!! I feel like an awful momma! So please give me y’all’s opinions and or advice! This is my first baby! I only have one! I’m in a super fragile state right now so please be nice! 🥺💗

Thank you in advance! 💗