So frustrating

So my husband has never been the type to do research on anything other than stuff he is genuinely interested in. Which is fine, until he asks me questions about how things are going to play out at the birth and I let him know how I’m feeling and what I want to avoid. (Ie. episiotomy and induction). He jumps straight to “well it makes more sense to do this” without asking any questions about risks/benefits or why I want what I want. (Let me add that I come from a medical background and have thoroughly researched, as this is our first baby and this involves my body and our child). Last night he he asked what happens if the baby isn’t here by a certain time. I explained to him that at a certain point, my doctor will start talking about induction and setting a date, but I would like to avoid that if possible for as long as I can. (Explaining that c-section rates in first time moms are greater than 50% when they are induced). Without hesitation, he says “well I don’t want anything to happen to the baby so you should just get induced”..... excuse me? Do you think I want something bad to happen to our baby? No. I explained to him how closely monitored I would be at that point in my pregnancy and at any sign of the baby being in distress, of course I will want the baby to be healthy as my top priority. He got frustrated with me and just went to bed. I just feel like he doesn’t think that 1) this isn’t just happening to our baby, it’s happening to me too. 2) of course I think about our baby and his safety and that brings into consideration the chooses I make.

I want him involved in these choices, as he is our babies father, but I would just like some support and for him to think about more than just what “makes sense to him”

(This is our first baby and my husband has no prior knowledge of birth or babies or anything female related)