How do I break the news????

So my boyfriend has hsv-1 (cold sores on the lip) and he is super insecure about them. On our anniversary he performed oral and didn’t even think about it. I made a joke after about “if you gave me herpes I’m going to be so upset”

This was a joke but after going to Google I was sincerely worried. But when I made the comment he almost cried about how insecure he is…now I have herpes on my vagina…this is incredibly upsetting and super hard for me. I know it was our fault for not being educated and for being unsafe…

Idk how to tell him.

Any advice?