Grandma take over...

I went to my mom's yesterday and she was holding my baby when out of the blue baby girl starts screaming. It was a different cry and to me sounded like she was in pain. So I rush over and ask my mom for my baby back, and my mom proceeds to tell me the baby is fine, she's got her, and I should eat. I'm trying to explain this cry was not normal, she doesnt do this, I need to figure out what is wrong. And my sister rushes over as my mom is like my niece did this all the time and my sister chimes in to agree with my mom. At that point my SO tells them both he doesnt care what was normal for my niece, our baby doesn't ever cry like this. This isn't normal. So my mom hands her to me, but then hovers trying to help me soothe my baby.

I love my mom, and I expected her to do this kind of thing (as I saw her do it with my neices and nephew prior). But it really botheres me when I asked for my baby and she told me she had it under control, and didnt quite understand this wasnt normal. Like I know she was trying to help, to allow me to eat and have a bit of a break. And had my baby been hungry or acting tired I would have been fine with her wanting to take over and be the "hero". But I knew something was wrong and that was disregarded. And it really made me feel uncomfortable having my baby compared to my colicy niece (and nephew). And her telling me babies cry and they are used to them crying. As if I was upset my baby was ruining the visit. She didnt understand I was worried about my baby, and not concerned what every one else thought.

And the thing that bothers me most is my mom got so jealous of anyone in my upbringing trying to step in as my mom. She tells stories aboit how her mom tried to take over rasing my brother when she got divorced, and how my grandma tried to hold me before my dad and her got to (then proceeded to overstay her welcome at the hospital). She hated when people didnt listen to her when my brother was having mental illness issues. But if i were to point that out she would not understand. She wouldnt recognize herself doing it to me, because her intent was "different". Then she would end up butt hurt. So there is no talking to her. And ive factored that into my relationship with my mom. I know she means well and loves me dearly. She loves my baby so much, but I just am bothered by the hypocrisy of it.

As for my baby when I got home she passed an massive amount of gas and had an explosive diaper at 4am. So I think she was a bit backed up, or her stomach was upset.