Holiday rant

So this is a rant. Am I the only one who dreads the holidays ? My family and husbands family are so seperated and so many different people and homes and events and trying to fit them all in and schedules with work and traveling for some of them stuff. Being pregnant and having a four year old right now. I know the point of holidays is about the people and family and friendship and love not so much the day and the gifts. I feel really overwhelmed and wish I could spread things out, but we are the ones that drive the miles and go to the things that we can, it's impossible to fit everyone in, and it just really makes me sad and frustrated...I wish I could just have my own and have everyone come to me instead but everyone already has their own events and traditions and things that won't likely ever change... How do you deal with the holidays ?