Relationship advice??

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Hey girls ❤️
So to preface, me (19) and my SO (21) have been together for about a year and a half. This is the longest relationship I’ve ever been in. It’s also the deepest I’ve ever been with someone. I don’t want to go into details, but we ended things today. I’m feeling very shattered. I want to be able to be like him and be okay with being apart. I don’t know how I will go on without him. I’m sorry for sounding cheesy, but he really makes me feel like a girl in a movie. Anyways, I just need some advice on to separate myself from the hurt and start to move on. 
Thank you ❤️

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The first thing that I’m gonna say to you is block and delete him on everything. That way you don’t have to see him MoveOn, or him talk to other women and make you feel worse, etc. block and delete him on everything. The reason that you’re feeling this way, is because you made this person the air that you breathe, you made him your world, don’t do that, have a balance of your own life, and a relationship, and that way if things don’t last, you aren’t crumbling like you are right now, because you have a life of your own, you have priorities of your own, I’ve been with my partner for over a year myself, if you left tomorrow, I would be fine, because I have a life of my own, and the relationship separately. We don’t live together, I would be fine if he left, we are like best friends, and I’ve known him over 20 years, would I be sad a little sure, but I’d be fine. Life existed before him and it will exist after him same with you. You will be fine. I know it was your first deep relationship, but all you can do is take it one day at a time. Give yourself some grace and space on the bad days, stop thinking about the past, and what would, what would have been, what he was, who he was, no you have to remember who he is in the end, the asshole who broke your heart, that’s who he was, everyone puts on a front in the beginning, nobody says hi I’m an asshole who’s going to use you, take advantage, Lie to you, cheat on you, is that OK, no everyone puts on their best face in the beginning, they suck you in emotionally, you get attached, then slowly but surely they flip the script on you, when they used to do the maximum to get you, now they do the minimum, and you end up chasing after them trying to keep the relationship going, and that’s the first mistake you made. I Tolman day one, I will not chase after you, I will match your effort, if you don’t hear for me, it’s because you didn’t make the effort to reach out to me first, I will not chase after a man. If you don’t hear from me it’s because you aren’t making the effort. The egg does not chase the sperm. Never chase after a man, that tells the man that not only are you lonely and desperate, but that you will tolerate whatever so that you won’t be alone, you then become a doormat to him that he knows he can use and take advantage of and cheat on, don’t do that. Love yourself, respect yourself, know your worth, and know that you deserve better. We need to stop allowing men to define relationships, that we are just talking, but I can talk to other women at the same time, that I call the shots no, you call the shots you tell him day one I don’t do hook ups, I don’t do friends with benefits, I’m a relationship person and if you’re not down with that, I don’t waste my time. Stop letting a man to find a relationship, string you along, use you, and keep you guessing. Stop that I don’t know when this happened, but women need to stop that. If a guy doesn’t wanna use a condom you tell him oh well we’re not having sex. And if he takes off that kind of that sexual assault you did not consent to that. You call the shots, it’s your body. Your choice, you are better off alone than in bad company that doesn’t appreciate you, or respect you, and that’s the bottom line with women. We need to stop this behavior. Be the strong independent women, stop allowing them to use us and take advantage of us and make us feel like shit, like we aren’t enough. You most certainly are enough, you are enough for yourself, and if you’re not enough for him, because he never wanted to be in a relationship to begin with, he was just looking for the benefits and how he could use you. When a man is not ready for a serious relationship, he will string along however many women and use them. When he is ready for a relationship that’s when he’s ready to settle down for real. Until he’s ready, he’s just going to use and take advantage of women. Love yourself, take care of yourself, pamper yourself, spend time with friends and family, keep yourself busy, that is the best way to get over someone, exercise, exercise is amazing for healing, exercise releases endorphins, serotonin, dopamine, all of the feel-good hormones, don’t listen to sad music and sad music and movies and sappy stuff to make yourself feel worse and cry more, you put on your favorite girl ballad, that’s my girl, independent women, etc. and you rock out to your music and you escape from reality, you don’t cry over this guy who’s not worth it. Voluntary is like a makeover for your soul, you stop focusing on yourself and focusing on your problems, and it gets you outside of the four walls of your home, you realize that there’s more to world than just your problems, it gives you a different appreciation and perspective of life, you realize that there’s more to life than what goes on in the four walls of your home. It makes you appreciate life, and makes you grateful that you don’t have to deal with what they have to deal with. Feeding the homeless at a soup kitchen, Habitat for Humanity for people who’ve lost their homes to disasters, reading to the blind, etc. there’s more to life than just boys, or men, get back to your community, keep yourself busy, walk dogs, babysit, they will come for you, get out of the house and stop feeling sorry for yourself, learn a language, read books, crossword puzzles, Play games on your phone, take up a hobby, ceramics, pottery, painting, you never know where you’ll meet somebody. On top of that it’s good for you to not wallow in your sadness. Can you tell that guy to kiss your ass, don’t allow him to rain on your parade, tomorrow is a new day, keep moving forward one day at a time. Fall in love with yourself, take the time to heal, never allow anyone to make you feel inferior without your consent, Eleanor Roosevelt said that, don’t give anyone permission to make you feel bad about yourself, never allow anyone to make you feel bad about yourself, they can kiss your ass, set boundaries, and don’t tolerate toxic behavior. You deserve happiness, you deserve love, you deserve respect, you deserve everything that life can offer you. Stop wallowing in the past, you no longer live there, the relationship is over, tomorrow is a new day. Life will go on, if you need to reach out and get some help and do so. But stop crying over a man who is not crying over you. Don’t waste a tear on him because he’s not worth it. Love yourself, pamper yourself, take care of yourself, you will be OK￼￼￼￼￼￼￼￼￼

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I think time is a key. You need time to heal, think the things through, accept the reality.
So 1. give yourself time, be kind and patient with yourself.
And for regular life things- if it's hard for you to do stuff- treat them as "tasks"- just things you need to cross off from your list. Even if you don't feel hungry - your task is to eat breakfast- you go to the kitchen take anything (maybe even make a task of earing healthy)- and eat. Than you have to dress- just a task. You don't need to feel joy and have fun. Just take some clothes and put them on. And so on. 
And turn off the guilt when you smile for the first time without him. It's ok to be done with sadness in a week or month - time is the key

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The best thing for you to do is:
Unfollow from social media, don t try to look at his stories or everything he post. Act like you just Don t know him
Make yourself feel good by idk make up, dress nice, go to a hairstyle, go out with friends. Don t stay alone and sobbing, call your friends or you family to hang out.
When you are thinking about him, try to like make yourself busy and take your mind of. Like cleaning, or start doing something you enjoy
Don t listen to sad music, put on some happy music and daaance
Go in a trip, or take some walks where you like or visit something you wanna visit and you didn't go till now
Love yourself girl 💖 Trust me, if you do this, after 1 month you will feel like he didn't existed. I ve been in your place and I know how you feel. 🥰

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