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It sounds like you guys are really young, or at least he is, and that he may not take your relationship seriously. I would be upset as well. But also this would never happen in a mature relationship, special occasions and holidays are meant to be with your family and significant other, not friends (unless you are young).
Am I allowed to be mad!
So my boyfriends just told me that in the next week he's going down to some beach house and if his friends can go he's going with them and having a boys night and if they can't I'll be going with him. He's also just told me that if his friends can't go and I go with him then he won't spend New Years with me because he will have a boys night then. I told him I don't mind if he wants a boys night that's perfectly okay just that I want to spend New Years with him. And this New Years his parents are letting him go down to another beach house and he said if I go with him to the other beach house he'll be spending New Years with his friends at this beach house. And I said why can't I come since last New Years I spent with him and his friends and he said it's different because we won't be going to the bay where heaps of people he knew would be there like last years. This is all because his friends don't have girlfriends and apparently it's like weird and unfair to have me there.
I understand he wants time with his friends without me and that's okay I just don't think it's fair that I'm not allowed to spend New Years with him because his friends don't have girlfriends so it'd be unfair or something
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Sounds like he's not mature enough to settle. A good boyfriend would bring you no matter what because he loves you and wants to spend time with you
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He's not spending it with his family thought if he was I'd be a lot more understanding
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You're teenagers, you've got the rest of your lives to spend the holidays together. That's as long as you don't freak out on him and break up because he wants to be with his family. Let him be with his family, he's still a minor/a child. and so are you! Your parents won't be around forever so appreciate them now
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We are only 16 and 17 so I only expect so much from him you know? But with this type of thing I was only upset because I want to share these holidays and things together
He's childish. You can have a "boys night" any night but he shouldn't be making you choose which day you want to hang out with him & obviously your the 2nd plan if his friends don't follow through.I'd tell him screw him and go hang out with my girlfriends both nights whether he wanted me there or not.
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I would hang out with my friends but they all have plans with their boyfriend and the only one that doesn't won't even be in the country for New Years
I think it's ok to have a boys night just not all the time. I don't know about the New Years thing but I have to be present with my parents on Easter, Christmas and New Years no matter what. Could be the same but that's just my family
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Oh ok well that is just not on i would be mad too. I would say tell him how you feel he could just think it's ok to hang out with them all the time
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It's not even with his family for New Years it's just him and his mates. I don't see him for any other occasion besides birthdays and valentines day because he's with his family for those so I don't mind. Just annoyed that he didn't even care and told me I was complaining when I said it upset me
That is totally unfair, I'd say something like I liked your friends, never noticed they were so petty, wow
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you are not wrong for trying to voice your opinion or your feelings, he is wrong, not you, my husband wouldn't even ask me that, our friends are welcome to be with us new years, why not tell him you'll invite your single friends? even if you can't it's still wrong for him to ask you that
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He also told me to stop complaining when I said I was upset about it which just made me so much more mad
Ugh sounds like my last relationship... He's being childish... Are you guys young? When I started dating my now husband, I was pleasantly surprised by how often we went to all events together, he never once complained about me being there, or needing a "boys" night... He hangs with his friends, but I knew he was the one when I was the most important thing vs. his friends. J/s
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Yeah we are young so I understand him needing time with his friends and I told him that. I only requested to spend time with him New Years and he got annoyed at me for being upset about him not seeing me then
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