Husband puts off sex

My husband is not the stereotypical man. He doesn’t make moves on me, he never gets turned down by me, and he isn’t jumping at every opportunity I give him. I find myself short of begging for sex most of the time. It’s so infuriating and a little embarrassing. He rarely makes out with me, or initiates anything that leads to sex. And I’d say about 80-90% of the time, when I try to initiate sex, I get turned down. So much so that I know second guess myself and wonder if it’s worth the effort anytime I want to do something to turn him on, like crawl on his lap or reach down his pants.

It’s been 5 weeks since we last had sex and I feel like I’m going crazy, I want him so bad. We had a rough month in August (life stuff, not relationship stuff) so I understood the dry spell, but it’s been 2 weeks since I first tried to initiate after all that, and he just keeps leading me on with no follow through. I asked last weekend and he said sure, we will later. Nothing. At the end of The weekend I said something about it and he said “oh we probably will this week” the week came and went—nothing. I asked yesterday and he said “we’ve got all day tomorrow” the day went by and then he said “yeah, we will later tonight.” Now he’s snoring in bed and I’m still waiting. I’m so mad about it. I try not to be because he’s always had a lower drive than me, so I try to be understanding. But when he knows I’m really wanting it and then strings me along with no intentions of doing it, that’s when I get pissed off. It’s not unusual for us to go a month, even though I hate it, but this has probably been the longest we’ve gone without in the 10 years we’ve been together. Ugh 😩