Am I selfish?

Okay so idk who is selfish in this situation or if simply no one is being selfish!

So me and my partner have nearly been dating for a year now and I’ve got my heart set out on moving out in the next couple of months and getting a start on a family in the next couple of years. His idea is to finish his education and then get a stable job and then save up and then move out.

I’ve been out of home for the last year and a bit work two jobs and study full time nursing and I make it work but he can’t see that as a possibility on his side even though it is totally possible if you stop putting excuses in the way.

When ever I get sad or upset he tells me the relationship has to be 50/50 and we have to make sacrifices for each other sometimes and yes I fully agree to that 100%. But it’s like I’m on birthconrol because I respect that he doesn’t want kids even though I am going through other health problems due to bc. I am also suspected of PCOS and ENDO and want to get off bc and to get my health on track so when it comes to having kids I’m in my best possible health but its not something he really cares about because he doesn’t have to go through it he doesn’t want a kid.

Like idk what to think of all of this.

Am I selfish for getting upset and sad about this? What other ways can I think I think of this to make it more reasonable?

I’m open to all opinions and ideas! I just want to see another way instead of him just being selfish for always putting himself first and never sacrificing anything for me.