In laws comparing me to husband’s ex wife?

My husband and I started dating in November 2019, got married in August 2020, and now we have a baby due November 13 2021. It happened quick, but when you know, you know. We are so excited to meet our baby girl and life is almost perfect. Almost.

My husband’s family consists of his sister&bro in-law , brother& sister in-law, and dad. They all live right beside eachother whereas my husband and I live away. Before I came along, my husband was with a horrible woman for approximately 5 years. They dated 4 1/2 and were only married about 2 months before the divorce.

His family hasn’t given me a fair chance from the get go. When we go visit, it’s like I don’t exist. I have to make them talk to me and it’s always such a one sided conversation. They won’t include me in holidays or anything. I have gathered over the past year that the girls don’t really like me based off the way I have been treated when we go over there. This bothered my husband since he noticed a pattern, so last time we went to visit, he brought it up. They admitted they’re upset because he doesn’t come around as much as he used to (he used to go over there twice a week if not more). They also didn’t like the fact that I post more pics with my nephew (my sisters baby), than their kids. Their kids are 5 and up, and have been really hard to establish a relationship with. I wish I could of been around when they were babies so they just grew up knowing me, but that’s not the case. They’re all boys and don’t really like to take pictures anyways. And I’m not going to force them to take a picture with me or hug me if it makes them uncomfortable. I thought me being present for soccer games and birthdays and what not would be enough to my husband’s sister and sister in law, but it’s not. I’m not good with kids and don’t really know how to change the dynamic I have going with their boys other than just being there and letting time do the work. Another thing that bothered me, is that my husband’s sister thinks our baby will see my mom more than her, and she’s jealous. My baby isn’t even here and she’s already getting jealous and creating problems in her mind.

When my husband talked to his brother, he told my husband that the reason they didn’t really try and get to know me is because they are protecting him. He said they “keep wondering what’s going to happen next”, implying that the option of divorce is on the table for us. If they knew me or anything about my personality they would know I’m not going to leave my husband. however, his brother openly admitted that they expect things to play out just like the last relationship, so they didn’t try and have a relationship with me. This upsets me and makes me not even want to take my baby around them. I’m glad we finally had this conversation and got some feelings out, but I can’t stop thinking about it and getting angry. How can I prove that I’m not like the last woman if they already have it in their head that it’s going to be the same situation?? They’re not protecting my husband like they think they are, they’re hurting him and pushing him away because they refuse to love me as family.