When do I get excited

Question

I dread social events because all anyone wants to talk about is the unborn child, everything has become “baby and momma”, it’s like I no long exist. I understand this is a huge important role, but I am more then just “momma”. I’ve lost friends because I don’t know how to be around people. I don’t know how to “lean” in to this. 
Any other women relate?

Answer

My daughter is 3 1/2 and I'm 36 wks pregnant. I noticed with her, and again this go around, that at the early stages it was all about "how are you doing?" "How are you feeling" "do you need anything?" As time goes on and I start to show more it becomes more and more about the baby and less and less about me. Once baby is here though... noticed with my daughter, I ceased to exist as a person. I could have straight up vanished into thin air and my disappearance wouldn't have been questioned. They saw me, they just looked right through me. Only thing they cared about was the baby. No one came to help, no one came to make dinner or do the laundry or let me shower. They came, they saw the baby, they oooh'd and awww'd, they went home. Not a single person asked how I was doing or if I needed anything or if I wanted any help or if I was sleeping. They damn were concerned with if her dad was sleeping though. Like he doesn't do shit. Sleeps like a baby all damn night. Never once has he gotten up with her. Just. It pissed me off because out of everyone, I was the one who was forgotten.

When do I get excited

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