Am I wrong for this?

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So I'm 9 months PP and currently still BF. My husband doesn't want anymore kids. At all. He wanted me to get on the pills amd I told him no, I wasn't doing that again. I told him the only thing I MIGHT do is get an IUD after I'm done BF. I told him if I fell pregnant I will NOT be terminating the pregnancy since I don't believe in that. I told him if he's 100% done with kids, then he can go get a vasectomy. Hes been saying he would since I was a month PP. Then the other day he told me he doesn't want to because then there's no "fun" in having sex. I again told him, if I end up pregnant, I'm not terminating and he then stated he doesn't want another child. When we do have sex he pulls out and never uses a condom. Its only a matter of time before that fails. I've had people tell me I need to suck it up and get on BC for him. But thats not what I want to do. I'm standing my ground. I keep having people tell me that I'm wrong for this, am I?
Also, no I don't want my tubes tied. I've put my body through enough.

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I agree with your stance 100 percent.

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No, I won't go on birth control just so my husband can ejaculate inside of me. You can get a vasectomy if it's that pressing. 
But for your sake, he needs to wear a condom. He's a moron for thinking the pull out method is effective and he's going to end up with another child. However you're both responsible for taking preventive precautions. I wouldn't be having unprotected sex with someone who told me they don't want any more children. 
I wouldn't even be able to have sex with someone like that. Huge turn off.

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He’s made it clear he doesn’t want more kids and there are plenty of practices he can utilize to prevent that from happening. You’ve said you wouldn’t terminate if something happens. If you’re both comfortable with the arrangement you have, that’s all that matters. He’s allowed to not want anymore children and you’re allowed to not want to take birth control. Y’all need to find a compromise. Neither of you are wrong. Maybe using a fertility awareness method would work better for y’all? However, if you were to get pregnant, one could assume he’d come very resentful and most relationships with resentment become unhealthy and do not survive. Just something to keep in mind.

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I 100% think you’re in your rights to not want to undergo surgery or get screwed up hormonally from the pill or IUDs etc. you went through pregnancy and birth, that’s a lot on a woman’s body. And if he doesn’t want anymore he needs to either get an irreversible vasectomy or be celibate. Cause condoms and the pull out method are not 100%. The other two options are. You keep standing your ground. I don’t get why other people don’t understand how much a woman sacrifices her health when she is pregnant, goes through labor, has her tubes tied, or gets on birth control. Vasectomies are a lot more easier to recover from, less invasive/risky when compared to a woman getting her tubes tied, and less expensive too. It’s obviously the better choice when the subject of not having anymore kids comes up when a couple doesn’t wish to sacrifice their sex life.

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I can't take birth control I have horrible adverse effects from it. I did in the past and stopped taking it. When I got with my boyfriend now a year and a half ago I decided to try again. He seen it was worse than ever. I ended up in er from it. He 100% on board with me not taking it. 
I was using family planning but here we are I will be 20 weeks Saturday. 
I keep saying things about him getting snipped he don't say anything. We haven't sat down and talked about it. But we are both off Monday I am going to bring it up. I am hoping he will go get it done. His friends have told him they did they feel it is best thing they could of done. 
I have researched a lot and it seems the best and safest way to go all around. Getting your tubes tied can come with it's own set if issues. This is my 5th baby his 4th and we are in our 40s we were done and are for sure now. If he don't get snipped we will use condoms every time regardless. If he don't want to then we won't be doing anything.

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I’m never going back on birth control. My boyfriend is A-okay with that, and has agreed after our second he’s getting a vasectomy. I don’t understand your husbands stance on it not being fun after having a vasectomy.🤔 He doesn’t want another kid but he still wants the danger of being able to have one?🤦🏼‍♀️ It’s HIM that doesn’t want more kids, snip snip buddy. ✂️
Birth control gave me terrible side effects and I won’t go back on them, so I don’t blame you at all for that. He needs to man up to his decision.

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You are absolutely right!!!
You will have to suck it up because he doesn't want more children, the ignorance of some people is unreal. What is ok with you sucking it up and putting your body through all the hormonal changes just because he is to coward to have a vasectomy. The sex won't be fun, let him inform himself what it actually means to have a vasectomy.
Just a short google sesrch: 
Ejaculation after a vasectomy remains the same as it was before the procedure. There is no change in either the person's ability to ejaculate or the appearance of the ejaculate fluid. The only difference in ejaculation is the absence of sperm in the semen.

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Am I wrong for this?

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