When did you know it was time for a divorce?

What was the last straw, the moment that made you said yes it’s time to get a divorce

Ive been unhappy in my marriage for probably a little over a year. My husband refuses to go to counseling and our communication sucks. He doesn’t express his feelings I get frustrated and we just argue.

I’ve told him multiple times I’m unhappy and I need more from him and he just won’t do it. My moms says I’m young (30 yrs old) and I shouldn’t waste anymore time being in an unhappy marriage. I feel like I’ve done everything to make our marriage better but im not getting the same from him. He’ll change for a few weeks maybe months and then go right back to how he was

I think it’s time for a divorce but im scared to pull the trigger