His friends hate me now

My boyfriend’s friends hate me.

Backstory, when we first started dating I hit it off with almost all his friends. Everyone loved me, both male and female friends to the point where they would hang out with me without him if he was busy or working. Or we would have “girls days”. One girl in particular really liked me and genuinely said I was her best friend and even if he and I broke up she would never stop being my friend. His family also loved me, I was truly a part of the family. I was/am like a daughter to his mother.

We both lived in one state, while his friends and family lived 5 hrs away in another state so we got to visit a lot. But this summer I had to move to yet another state (I’m military) and he is getting out of the military in a couple weeks so he will be moving in with me (we were already living together beforehand). All his stuff is in the house I bought. We have dogs and cats together, and a car together. We planned on getting married next year.

Well some shit went down the last few months and we hit a rocky patch in our relationship but we came out of it stronger then before. As normal we turned to our friends to vent and for advice. My personal friends were upset at the things my bf said or did but they forgave him after he realized he was in fact in the wrong and apologized. His friends however will not forgive me. See the difference is I told my friends every side to the story, and I only confided in 2 friends. But he only told them his side of everything and no further details as to why I reacted the way I did to things(this part is extremely important for them to know). He also told ALL his friends. So they all hate me now. Like absolutely hate me, trying to convince him to leave me, saying I’ll keep him isolated and away from them if he does move in with me. These are the same ppl that claimed to be my friends as well. I will say though, that there always seemed to be a sense of jealousy from them that he was moving to be with me…. Anyway, not once did any of them check in with me to hear my side of things or ask questions. It’s funny bc they used to always hate my bf’s exes, and now I’m on their hate list. After I get out of the military in a few years we had plans to move to his small hometown. I didn’t want to but I agreed bc I at least had friends. Now they all hate me. At least his mom, who he also confided in, does not hate me but she knows the full story. I don’t want to visit for Christmas bc of the things everyone has said about me, so now she’s coming to see me bc she loves me and I am family. She is even taking a plane (she is severely afraid of flying).

He said no matter how hard he tries to convince them he was in fact in the wrong, he can’t get them to change their minds.

Normally I wouldn’t care, but these are his friends. All of his friends. They won’t come to our wedding, to visit us, or be involved in our future Childrens’ life if he stays with me. To be clear he is staying with me. Idk what to do, but honestly I don’t think there is anything to do.