My husband and I have been together totally of 10 yrs on and off , 3 yrs married. He has had moments where he would be very sad and emotional about life and whether we were together or not he would always find his way back to communicate with me about that particular period in life, typically saying he could always come to me. We recently relocated and ever since he has been very depressed. Crying occasionally to me about how bad he feels, like he can’t be in our house that nothing makes him happy. We’ve had days where he’s normal and days where he says he wants to leave and be alone , live alone, unsure if it’s our marriage that’s making him unhappy, yet he has said he’s been battling these depressed states since his teens. Now I requested time off for his bday and he has decided to go off without me , by himself and supposedly having a family member meet w him. He doesn’t plan to come back until after his bday. I’m crushed. I’m confused. I wanna leave him but then I don’t know if this is sincerely a mental health issue and I just need to be patient. I made an appt for a therapist for myself. He made one , went to one appt and has yet to return after canceling bc of a new jobs scheduling conflict. He’s leaving and had been super affectionate saying he knows he’s selfish but needs this for himself, go fkn figure. I am thinking I will just not speak to him while he’s gone since he needs to do this for him, I need to guard my emotions. I have already told him I won’t be attending thanksgiving w his family either for fear of how I’ll feel around him since I don’t know what to expect from him. Told them it’s a work issue. Any advice would be so appreciated, to get me through until my appt.