What should I do?

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My fiancé has a high sex drive, so he is always wanting pleasure in some type of way. I am the opposite where I have a low sex drive and am not always in the mood. He believes that if I can’t pleasure him that he should be able to go have another woman do it. Obviously I am not okay with that but he says if I love him unconditionally that either I should be pleasuring him more or I should be okay with another woman doing it. I’m not sure what to do, I love him with all my heart. We’ve been together for 9 years, and I would do anything to make him happy. Just not entirely sure on this specific topic.

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What you should do 
Step one: break up with that pos. He’s straight up gaslighting & manipulating you, he has no respect for how you feel, your boundaries or the relationship.

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He can't just do it himself? Goddamn men really can't do anything without help

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Tell him to go fuck himself (literally) and get yourself a better man 
Leave and never look back 
That behaviour is toxic and just frankly disgusting

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Either you break up with him. Especially if he wants to step outside yalls relationship to find the pleasure he’s lacking. Try to find a compromise that y’all are both happy with. Sexual needs in a relationship are a deal breaker for me. People need intimacy. And if you won’t/can’t provide it and he won’t try and compromise with you to find a happy medium. Break up.

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Break up with him. He just wants to cheat.

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I know it may be hard because you’re looking at the amount of years together but he clearly doesn’t respect you and knows that you’ll do anything for him. So he’s basically telling you upfront what he’s about to do which is sleep with other women.
You need to get rid of this man as it seems like he’s a manipulative POS… toss him.

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Yea nah this isn’t okay. Break up with him. He’s literally trying to guilt trip you & manipulate you. I’ve been in this exact same position & it’s honestly not worth it. Please get out before things get worse otherwise you might end up just giving him your body (like I did & it’s honestly so depressing,, just feels like you’re constantly getting sexually abused) & you need more self respect than that!! If he’s even suggesting the idea of cheating then there’s no doubt he’ll actually find a woman on the side to fulfil his sexual needs. Girl, you deserve better. Period. 👑🌸

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You may love him with all your heart but he does not. No man that truly loves you will say “either have sex with me when you don’t really want to or I’ll cheat” the fact that you made this post shows us that you really do care about him because you’re weighing in his side over your own. Notice how he won’t do the same? 
Please don’t let him corner you this way. He will blame you for anything and everything, he will try to control you and make you feel like you’re not enough.
You. Are. Enough!! And you deserve a partner that loves you and respects your boundaries 💓 I know 9 years is a long time with him, but what would you rather have: 9 years with a shitty guy or a lifetime with a shitty guy?

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Don’t do it if you’re not ok with it just to make him happy. It will only make you resent him. It’s not for everyone, and it’s not right for every relationship. If you do decide to do it, there needs to be strict boundaries and open communication. It’s not a free pass to sleep with whoever without the other partner knowing. Sounds to me like he just wants an excuse to cheat without the guilt whether you’re ok with it or not. You don’t owe it to him just because he has a higher sex drive. Being sexually frustrated won’t kill him and he should have the self control to keep it in his pants. Only do it if it’s what you want and if you know you can mentally handle it. Not everyone can

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Girl, all he’s there for is pleasure. Leave jit🤦🏻‍♀️🪓

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