What would you do if your BF wanted an abortion?

Question

Pretty sure I’m pregnant after having unprotected sex due to symptoms and I am going to test in a few days . I’m scared because my bf is suggesting abortion if I am pregnant. I do not want an abortion. But I am not in the financial place to raise a child, I can’t have a child where I live and most roommates don’t want to live with a baby. Cant live with my mother because we do not get along. He doesn’t want kids right now but I don’t want an abortion . ☹️

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Its not his choice to make. You need to take a test and think things through. 
Though you have to do whats best for the baby. Can you give that baby everything it will need? A home, a bed, food, clothes, a safe place to grow play and learn? Coz from what you have said you can’t do those things and giving a baby away to adoptive parents is an extremely difficult thing to do that will make you feel guilty for the rest of your life…

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There are kinda 2 issues here. I wouldnt get an abortion just because my partner wants one....if he knowingly had unprotected sex with me, well guess what we are grown ups and thats what happens when you have unprotected sex, sorry Charlie. But you have the added element that you cant take care of yourself and have nowhere to go. I quite honestly would never put myself in that vulnerable a position as to basically end up homeless if hes not happy for whatever reason, pregnancy included. And any guy who I think would put me on the streets if I wound up pregnant is not a guy I would be with, so I dont think you should stay with him regardless. I would probably hussle to find a job and get out of there.

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Mine did. But I wanted to have my baby and I made the decision that I was gonna do it with or without him. He ultimately decided that he wanted me to do it with him. Our babygirl was born just under two days ago and he's a proud daddy and being so supportive through my recovery. Hopefully yours turns it around too if you decide not to abort. But either way, do what YOU know you want to do deep down in your heart, not what anyone else wants. If you decide on abortion, do it because of your own reasons, not his. Good luck!

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His feelings are valid and he's allowed to not want children right now. However, as adults, we know unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy. It's not his choice to make for you but I would definitely take a test and weigh your options. It doesn't sound like you can take care of yourself let alone a baby. Babies need more than just love. If you want to keep the baby that's fine, but be prepared for your boyfriend to not change his mind. He may but he may not and you need to be prepared for that. They have state programs to help you and your baby but they are usually supplemental in addition to income you make. There are options you just have to figure out what you want to do. And there is always the chance you're not pregnant at all

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so, you don’t want an abortion, but you know you’re not in the best place to raise a child. it sounds like adoption might be the best choice for you. you can meet the family ahead of time & choose an opened or closed adoption. but whatever you choose to do, i hope everything turns out good for you

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I’d break up with him. If you can’t care for a baby, you could consider adoption. You could also look for a single mom who needs a roommate.

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My bf told me to terminate. I didn’t want to but I also could afford a baby and give it the life it deserved so I put her up for adoption. Almost 9 years later and I don’t regret it at all. Don’t let a boy (I say boy because a man doesn’t behave like that) push you to do something you don’t want to do. 
And depending on where you live there are countless programs to assist single moms

What would you do if your BF wanted an abortion?

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