WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT SPLIT UPs

Question

My husband and I are not getting a long. Trust issues. Have been getting along a little for 2 years since it happened. But now for some reason we think we need time apart to breathe and heal without each other. We have two boys. 5 and 11. Are hoping to keep it civil. I’m wondering if anyone has experienced and healed and ended up back to being married to that person. Or is it a lost cause and it will end. what do you think ?

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You should be in counseling. Separating alone won’t solve your problems. You two need to do that together.

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Try counseling.
Theres no point in being separated if you aren't even actually working to better things

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If you mean taking a break, please know that most men are not going out to yoga retreats on mountain tops, majority of them I’m sorry usually end up messing with other people, if not emotionally than physically, men tend to move on quickly unfortunately sometimes they already have a back up plan in place. You may be working on yourself and going to therapy and exercising and trying to sort through your emotions, etc. but with men, it’s usually drinking, partying with their friends, messing with other people, strip clubs, hookers, sorry if you’re at the point where you need to take a break, breaks usually give you a realization that either your life is better off without them, or that you’re missing them, usually it’s the woman who’s missing them, it’s the guy realizing his life is better off and having fun because he’s no longer feeling controlled or obligated to behave, or not do whatever you didn’t want him to do with your boundaries. Some women have boundaries of social media, following Instagram models, pornography, fan only, etc. strip clubs, you name it, and the minute you’re not there, or saying that he can’t do something, of course he’s going to go and do it. But if the relationship is already not working out, you’re basically forcing it, often times men do the minimal, and until you get tired of it in one out, and therefore making you the bad guy not them. Even though if they didn’t do the minimum, I wouldn’t get to that point. You could try counseling, individual and couples, but if things are that bad, I don’t know the reasoning why, I don’t know if it’s addiction or neglect or infidelity, etc. but the main reasons relationships don’t work, is number one support, that goes for with the children, with the household, emotionally, physically, sexually, financially, etc. every level. Number two you no longer feel connected to your partner and that goes for every level as well, number three one person is being selfish while the other person is being selfless doing everything under the sun to keep the relationship going or the other is doing the minimal, and lastly your needs are no longer being met, and that goes for every level as well. If that’s how things are based on those four things, the relationship is basically over, and when those things are not being met, that’s often when infidelity happens, emotionally or physically, when your needs aren’t being met, you look for them to be met elsewhere, when you no longer feel connected to your partner, you look for solace in someone else, shoulder to cry on, can turn into more. I’m sorry you guys are going through this, you end up living like roommates, or you get tired of the same fight over and over again. I hope things get better, but if not that’s OK too￼￼￼￼￼

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No. If it’s bad enough I want a break, it’s done.

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT SPLIT UPs

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