I was born the youngest my mom would serve us in order her husband, my oldest brother and middle brother me last.

One day we cooked soup the soup was ready everyone had been eating snacks they weren't hungry and I served myself sat down to eat my mom saw me at the table was furious who do you think you are you are last! To be served last how dare you serve yourself before us!

I moved out at eighteen, ten years later she invited me over we were having coffee and she said would you like pancakes I said yes she was cooking pancakes and she served my son and when I went to serve myself she said no those are for my husband! She put them in a plate he wasn't there but I sat at the table, then she cooked for herself then she cooked for me last.

Is this abusive?

One day she was cooking and served but everyone was busy / left and she told everyone she was a servant had to eat apart from the family eat alone who did we think we were

She made me eat alone a lot and I actually cleaned the house a lot so did she treat me like a servant in her mind like serve me last I get the scraps and eat alone when everyone is done eating.

I don't want my son seeing this I felt like this was something abusive