Low sex drive

My bf & I have been together 7 years.

We both have very low sex drives, and are not happy with it. What are things that could help us?? I am on birth control, we are both over weight which I know could contribute.

Sometimes its only 3 times a month. Or once every 3 weeks. I just miss the intimacy that comes with it, but don't want us to force ourselves to do it.

I also have stomach/digestive issues that make me feel sick & disgusting almost daily, so that doesn't help us either 😪