Why marriage counseling?

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Serious question but why do women automatically suggest marriage counseling when ppl seek advice? Has anyone ever had their marriage turn around after counseling? I seriously want to know because the man can be an entire bum/asshole and ppl will still suggest the woman try marriage counseling. Why?? Why should the woman try to fix the marriage when the man isn’t putting in any effort?
I’m not married and I’ve never known anyone to have a successful marriage after trying counseling. The man usually “improves” for awhile then slips back into his old ways. 
Maybe I’m naive but I don’t believe in tirelessly trying to make a partnership work when the other party isn’t putting in effort. Plus I never hear men suggest marriage counseling lol they suggest you move tf on. 
Can someone explain and if you tried marriage counseling did it save your marriage?

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I'm a licensed psychologist. Marriage counseling is not going to save all marriages but it can save some...it depends entirely on the issues involved, the people involved, and most importantly BOTH individuals' motivations for therapy. I think women suggest it frequently because if it does save the marriage, great! But if it doesn't save the marriage, it at least gives the woman more information about their partner's level of commitment and allows them to walk away knowing they did what they could to try to save the relationship. I think it can solidify the decision to divorce (or work it out) allowing the decision to be made with information and confidence.

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Counseling absolutely saved my marriage. BUT!! I think it only works when BOTH parties want to repair things. If one side is just not wanting to put in the work or pretends to, then it won’t work out in the long run.

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My husband cheated on me from 2005 to 2013. He also had a porn addiction.
In 2013 I filed for divorce and that woke him up. We did marriage counseling, he got help and turned his life around. 
Our marriage is better since! Ymmv

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me and my husband tried it bc he cheated on my while i was pregnant with our first also he thought i was super over protective over her to the point where he couldn’t be a dad i say it could’ve worked but he decided he didn’t want to continue to go bc “he didn’t want people in our business” it’ll work if you guy are both open minded for changed i felt like i was but my husband was not

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Counseling isn’t always about staying together. It’s a space to get both people to communicate in healthy ways. Sometimes that leads the couple to part, and doing it in a healthy way can help prevent a messy aftermath.

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Sometimes it’s not about saving the marriage but facilitating a cleaner separation.

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Sometimes situations that are described on here are too complicated to just give advice. Marriage counseling can be a very useful tool as long as both people are genuinely willing to work on the relationship  
This post gives off a bunch of “anti-men” vibes lol

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I suggest it bc we I’m not a professional and can only give personal advice. But some advice doesn’t fit for all. So if a relationship needs real help, a trained unbiased person should be the one to help.

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Most of the time it just isn't the man is a piece of trash throw him away. People just lack good communication skills and often need a mediator especially when high emotions are evolved. No one is perfect, no relationship is perfect, people love each other and you have to be willing to work on things to try and keep the other happy and a lot of times you will revert to old problems. It normally isn't my advice (though clear communication often is so if you need someone to help you with that counselors work too). I don't think every relationship should be saved though counseling is a good option (probably more effective before it comes to the point of last resort but even then it couldn't hurt so why not?) Even if the relationship ends you can use advice from counslers to better understand yourself and have better communication in future relationships.

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