Does anyone else have family that does or acts like this to them?

So my step mom is a nurse, she and my dad met when I was around 7. I’m turning 30 tomorrow (woo🙃) lol anyways. She has two girls of her own from a previous marriage. They were always getting good grades all throughout school and went to college and medical school. One is a PA and the other is on that same path. Always praised.

But with me I was never scholastically gifted. I also had some learning disabilities that really made me struggle. So I wasn’t a straight A student. I was more of a C or D student. Nonetheless I did graduate high school and went to cosmetology school and did really really well in my career. I was always the black sheep. The “Cinderella” if you will. We all went to three different schools and I was always the last to be picked up. And a lot of the times when my step mom picked me up my step sisters would either have a Starbucks or a slurpee, and they didn’t get me one and just took us straight home. And that hurts as a kid. It’s like she was punishing me for being dumb. Which I wasn’t dumb I just didn’t live up to her standards apparently. So my whole life was basically that way. My step sisters got the upper hand and everything like that.

Well I married my high school sweetheart in 2016 and we now have a beautiful two year old daughter and another little girl on the way. My step mom makes comments about my daughter not being smart enough for lack of better words. For instance on Christmas she got her a puzzle for kids. And she asks me if she’ll sit down and actually do the puzzle and I said I mean I can get her to try but she’s two she doesn’t just sit for anything even if I do it with her lol and then she says well she’s gonna have to learn before she gets into kindergarten you don’t want her to be held back. And my step sister chimes in and says sometimes it’s good for them to be held back. And I’m like “well let’s not say stuff like that” like wtf, don’t worry she won’t be “stupid” like me. She’s TWO, not ten and still not knowing how to do a puzzle. It’s a puzzle not a math equation. They’ve said stuff like that to me often and even backhanded like saying it to my daughter but just loud enough so I can hear them. It really hurts my and my husbands feelings. Like I’m already not being a good mom. Or I’m not doing it right. Sorry this was so long.

Any one else?