Relationship advice? Anger issues?

I've been with my bf for 5+ years (I'm 21 he's 24). I've always told him I value the masculinity vs femininity in a relationship and how I want him to plan things or do something. I don't even want those things anymore because I've told him million times.. And he always says I'm comparing him with other couples which I'm not! I just want to do something more with him and increase our intimacy..

We've had sexual problems a lot recently especially that we both live with our parents and can't relax at all. We both don't like how sex is.. (I told him I don't want to live with our parents if we get married and he thinks I'm crazy or that I only want money which is not true!!)

He was home alone 2 times recently and the first time he was supposed to come here so we can walk to his home at 2:30 but he came at 3:30. I didn't mind at all but he should have just told me so I don't hurry up and plan my time.

Second time my mom was supposed to drive me to his place but she got plans last minute and I had to walk there alone and I was late for 20min. And he started yelling at me and throwing things like chairs and furniture around his house saying I treated him like a dog??? And how he always did the best for me and I compared him to other people which I didn't (I just told him I want to do more things with him if he planned something and he never planed anything). He is always late whenever we need to see each other and I never make a problem about it. Now when I'm late for 20 mins and its not even my fault because I had to walk for 30min.. And he's not even ready when I arrive there he's still getting ready and he went to the store and left me crying and shaking. Told me it's my fault I'm too sensitive.. Even when we have sex I don't feel anything. He want to put it in immediately and I want more forplay to get relaxed and wet.. Then we had sex (I wasn't in the mood but I just wanted to make him feel better) and he was kinda mad because I didn't enjoy it but HOW can I enjoy it when he yells at me and throws furniture around the room and then calls me too sensitive and calls me names? And how did i treat him like a DOG? when I love him with all my heart but I just want to spend quality time with him. With these 5 years we never slept over together or anything... And girls my age (21 years old) they even go to multiple vacations with their boyfriends.. I'm not asking for vacation just some alone time together or him to be the first to initiate something... I just feel like he lost feelings for me... So he's not even trying to plan anything for just 2 of us alone...

He's very nice guy overall but I don't see how he gets so angry easily and then acts like nothing happened and I'm overthinking for days after...