Hi there. So my husband and I have been married since Aug 2020 but we’ve been living together since Dec 2020 and found out we were pregnant in Sep 2021. There have been times that I’ve felt like a neglected house plant that is in a dark room all the time and doesn’t see the sun and hardly ever gets watered.

A little backstory, we are both in the military. He basically works a 9 to 5 but my schedule fluctuates every month due to my particular job. Thus, we have totally different schedules and sometimes I’m extra tired from working late or having to adjust to a new schedule but regardless, I take care of most things (cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping) as most wives do but majority of the time my husband plays video games. We’ve had times where we’ve spent the entire day binge watching something on Netflix but 9 times out of 10 he plays the game all day and I’ll cook, clean or relax in bed and that’s our normal routine. It’s not the worst situation in the world but I just feel like things could be better.

I’ve communicated with him that I suffer from anxiety and depression so I overthink and stress myself out a lot, which is also the reason I like to keep myself busy because I feel like once I relax for too long those negative thoughts start to creep back in. I’ve also tried to talk to him about the different love languages and communicate how I want to be loved because I know his and how he likes to be loved. Obviously we haven’t been married that long and it’s only the beginning. We’re fully committed to each other and have made it through every obstacle we’ve faced but basically I just want to know - how do I deal with loneliness in marriage?