Help? What can I do to make my husband want me

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My husband had a accident that affected his manhood when we started dating. It’s been 6 years and I’ve been so patient with him and his recovery but he can’t even stay hard long enough for me to enjoy sex. He barely gets turned on and I feel like we had more sex pre marriage. I’m young and hot but I feel so pathetic because we barely have sex and I’ve verbally spelled out the issue I have but nothing seems to be changing. We argue more because there is so much built up tension and he always says he’ll work on it but he talks more than performs. I’ve straight up asked him if he has performance anxiety and he didn’t really want to admit it but I’m sure he does. How can I help? I’m super frustrated and always dream of passionate sex and fantasize about how good other people have it. I feel guilty but I can’t help it I deserve a better sex life than this

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Like you said he had an accident that affected his manhood, that is out of his control. You can be the hottest girl in the world, if he has problem with staying hard because of the accident he had, it won't help. He's all talk because he wants to do it but can't. Maybe try physical therapy or see a doctor see what they have to say.

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Have you talked about possibly bringing in some toys or doing something to try to spice the sex up? If that's not an option then maybe he needs therapy?
It's a touchy subject with someone in his shoes so I'd be very gentle and cautious if you do bring those topics up

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I think reduce the pressure and encourage him more. U know the cause of this and so don't give up. 
Nevertheless he can pleasure you without his penis. Unlike other suggestions, I dont think you should use toys. Even a guy functioning well has a hard time competing with the performance of toys so if you bring that into the mix, you set the bar even higher for him and even if he improves, it will feel like nothing to you. I believe you do want to feel pleasure from him and the aint just about getting pleasure from any source. So don't go the alone route. Work with him. 
If you are frustrated,  Remember if you crush his ego especially sexualy, you only cheat yourself because it means his performance will only deteriorate.  If boosting his manhood sexually is hard for you due to the lack of satisfaction,  try forst boosting him in other areas of life. If will become easier for you to appreciate him and also the boost he has in you might help him transfer that confidence to your sexual life too. 
Otherwise 6 years are a long time to be sexually starved. You have done well. But the only way to redeem this is the positive approach.  Complaining or pressure might only lead to divorce and you have worked so hard to fight for this marriage only to let it go. He might also be suffering from psychological erectile disfunction. Try counselling and maybe while seeking help, you will also get to know technics that would work for you two as a couple in this season and help you move to a better sexual life. 
Remember,  it is a gradual process. Celebrate the improvements and laugh abiut the failed attempts. (Not at him, with him) lol

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There are plenty of ways to get off together without penetrative sex. It sounds like he’s wanting to do that together, he just is struggled staying hard. Incorporate toys for both of you, use your hands and mouths more, etc.

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Sounds likenyou are putting a lot of pressure on him which can effect guys. If he already has trauma around that area of his body even if the doctors say he is physically good that doesn't mean he is mentally. Abd if he has some issues still and isnt in therapy you wanting passionate amazing sex while he may be having power issues could be making the situation worse. I get is sucks and that is a long time but good chance he isn't truly fully healed. If he isn't seeing a therapist it may be a good idea to have him go talk to someone. I can't imagine having am injury to that area wouldn't leave some lasting imprint. Can you work toys into your sex life or other play so the pressure isn't on him to "preform" and there can still be pleasure??

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I don't think its rlly something he can control. Idek what therapies are out there to improve on an issue like that ? 
He must be sooo pained and so embarassed about it. I cant even imagine. Im sure he wishes so bad he could please you

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The more you make it of an issue, the more it will become of an issue. Best you give him some time and back up a little because the more pressure you put on him tbe worse it will get. And that he can't even control. And again just because a doctors says something is fine physically doesn't mean it actually is fine all the way. But if you love your husband you will surely find a way to go about this, with a lot of patience, understanding and love. That is what makes a good partner and not good sex.

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Communicate with your husband. Make sure you are really listening to him too. It’s possible he actually really wants to but just physically can’t and if it’s something you’re bringing up accusingly, it could only worsen the issue. Try therapy, talk to doctors. If he does all the things, you might feel better because you can see he’s actively trying to do what he can. Express how it’s something you need, and you need him to actually try different things to see if any help. If it’s just a mental block, talk more about what turns him on, try new stuff, try sex toys, etc. If all that fails, talk about opening up the marriage. 
Good luck!

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Baby girl it a sex store online call Adam & Eve, see do they have some harding cream to keep him hard long, I no they do just look it up. Good luck

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Yes, you deserve a good sex life. You also chose to marry this guy. Talk with him about your needs and see if there is a solution. What about an open marriage? Can you take some of the pressure of by masturbating more? Go to a couples therapist specialized in sex? Just realize this has NOTHING to do with you. He misses a chemical (I think it's produced in the balls) that makes him crave sex. Just shooting ideas here, keep it open and keep talking. No matter what you do, don't stop talking to him! This is an issue you need to address together.

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