Is it called PPA still if it’s in your SO? I have (still) not given birth. Currently 41 weeks. But my husband is just… FREAKING out. And it’s causing me so much stress. I’m trying to be empathetic and comforting but I’m so extra pregnant I just wanna shake him and tell him to calm down.

I made the mistake of asking him to come to my last prenatal visit at 40+4. Previous appointment at 39+5, the doctor and I had discussed induction and I said I wanted to give it another week. He was fine with that. Then at this appointment I mentioned “do you think it’s necessary to schedule before 42 weeks?” As I’ve done my research obviously and been on this app for a while. He said “we cannnn wait but your risk of stillbirth goes up about 2x after 41 weeks so I would like to schedule you sooner rather than later.” (I googled this information, technically yes he’s correct. It goes from like 2/1000 births to 4/10000 births. Double, still very low). I’ve had a healthy pregnancy & baby girl is doing great in there and trying to break my ribs. That being said I’m over it so agreed to just be induced whenever they have an opening this week.

We haven’t heard back from the hospital yet to come in. To me, this is a great sign that it definitely isn’t an emergency situation that I need to be induced ASAP. I’m fine with the wait even tho I’m impatient. But my husband guys. Idk what to do to make him feel better. He held on by a thread this weekend, but now that I’m officially 41 weeks he has just completely snowballed. I mean he’s talking about calling the hospital and “demanding” a room, which I keep reminding him 1. Won’t work and 2. Is not setting us up for a positive multi day stay 🤦🏼‍♀️ he yells when he talks (not AT me, I can tell he’s just frustrated.) he’s also pacing the house like a madman. Tells me he feels like his chest is tight, can’t focus on anything….

Sorry this is long but my point is I feel like this level of anxiety is a warning sign that he may really struggle with anxiety even after she’s here and I’m not sure how to help him or what to look out for. He already sees a therapist but not for anxiety, for depression he used to have that has pretty much resolved since I got pregnant. I also don’t know how to kindly tell him to STOP STRESSING ME OUT OR I WILL SLAP HIM.

Did anyone husbands/ SO have more anxiety after birth than you? Did anyones have similar anxiety prenatally but it resolved once baby was here? I feel bad for him but am at a loss on how to help him relax because this situation is also so much out of my control with her and the hospital