My partner and I have been together just short of 3 years. In the beginning of our relationship I would give him head every so often when he asked for it. He was under the impression that I enjoyed doing it, and I understand looking back that I definitely acted like I liked it. I regret doing this because I absolutely hate giving head. I feel like I just can’t do it anymore. I have emetophobia (fear of vomit/ vomiting) and I have a bad gag reflex. When I give head i am constantly gagging and scared that I’m going to throw up. It’s one of the least enjoyable things for me to do. Over time I’ve just stopped doing it. But he is not having it. He says that head is a part of sex for him and that it’s something he needs to have sometimes. He said he wishes I told him this sooner. I can’t tell if he’s implying that he would not have continued with our relationship if he knew this earlier, but that’s the impression I have. (I’ve asked him if this is how he feels and he refuses to answer the question). I understand that people have needs and I’m not trying to shame him for this. I just hate it so much but I fear he will forever be sexually unhappy with our relationship if I don’t do this. I guess I’m just venting and would like to hear some opinions :)