I need some help understanding some seperation orders...

My ex spouse was discharged and the form itself (AF IMT 100) under remarks states the SPD code is JKQ which I looked up and it said it was Misconduct (Serious Offense) which would've been him putting his hands on me....

My question is, because his lawyer stated in court that it was a medical discharge, does this absolutely confirm he was discharged under that code? I don't have a copy of his DD214 and just this redacted seperation form as I requested from the person who worked my case when I reported the abuse if I could get any documents relating to my case and the outcome of it. The other items I have is a redacted discharge memo from the commander stating he be discharged for Commision of a Serious Offense- Other Serious Offenses. Would it be appropriate for me to ask them if this confirms the type of discharge?

The only reason I'm asking is because I'm trying to use everything I have to fight back against him trying to take our son from me as he put in an amends for him to get full custody due to a bs claim of me denying him holiday visitation (I tried to ask him his plans since the 22nd of Nov and told him multiple times that the week after Christmas was unavailable due to my mom being in town but any other time was ok and he waited last minute and still chose that week and told me no when I offered him a different time-frame) and that I moved out of state (which he did not deny the move, was properly notified, it does not impact the court ordered visitation other than driving a little longer, and he has no family in the state he's in so it's not like he has a reason to stay there either and if anything I am closer to his family than he is distance wise)....

Now he wants full custody and for me to only get every other weekend even though he has every weekend right now and for me to do all of the driving even though we meet halfway (halfway is 1hr 50min drive)

I can't lose my kid to that man and I need what I can get..I have other items such as his neglect of our child as well as not being very communicative so if I can use the fact they lied to the courts as more evidence so my baby will be safe then I'll do whatever it takes

I'm done rolling over and not fighting back. I'm going into debt just to retain a lawyer so I'm not going in defenseless against him. I didn't want to fight and tried to be as civil as possible, but I can't afford to be nice anymore at the cost of never seeing my son again and him be neglected constantly by his father...

Thanks for reading and thank you for any info ya'll can provide

*throwing in an edit* our current custody agreement is visitation every weekend with 2 weeks of holiday that do not have to be taken consecutively, all that it states is I'm given an "adequate advance" for said holiday time. The specific week in question that I had informed him beforehand of being unavailable was not a set date for him to have our child hence why I was trying to talk to him about holiday plans.