How do moms handle doing everything?

Question

This is more of a rant then a question. My husband got covid last weekend, he was sick in bed for almost 3 days. I had to tend to him and take care of our 4 month old girl alone. By Wednesday I'm sick, coughing, sore throat, but I'm managing. Then Thursday the baby gets sick, runny nose and fever. I've been doing everything alone all week and checking the baby regularly at night. I don't get much more the a couple hours of sleep before I'm up again either feeding her or making sure she is okay. 
Why is it that when men are sick they lay around and do nothing, but when women are sick we still cook, take care of basic things in the house?  Plus all the childcare still falls on the mom, right?
I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels like this, but today I'm just exhausted and cranky. How do other women handle doing everything?

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I am actually way more of a baby than my husband when sick but we share responsibilities equally when sick. Sometimes one of us is legitimately sicker than the other and we always try to let the other one rest when we can. This is just being a parent, there are no 100% “sick days”.

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I don’t know but it’s annoying. My family of 5 got Covid 2 weeks ago. My 14 year old, 19mo old and 7 week old were sick along with me and my husband. I still did everything and took care of the kids and I was the one who had the worst symptoms and was the most sick. I lost it on my husband by day 5 and it finally dawned on him that I needed some rest and HELP. Hope you’re feeling better.

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Not in my house. We are equally responsible for everything, even when sick. Of course there’s a time when test is needed and one of us may not be able to be as helpful or present, but no. It doesn’t all fall on me just because I’m the mom.

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You have to talk with him express how you feel my hubby even sick still helps out you just got to be honest not everyone is mind reader

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Be direct. “I’m going to do____ but I need you to do _____. Tell him you’re as sick as he is and he needs to help out now.

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I hear ya!! I have a great partner but it still can fall on me at the end of the day. But I think it’s also partially my fault because if I don’t ask for help I can’t expect him to know I need it. And sometimes I do things just because it’s faster/easier.

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I don't. My husband carries his load of things also when we're both sick. We lower our expectations to everything and survive until we're better.

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Talk to your husband. That’s not how it is in my house. If I’m sick my husband takes on a few extra responsibilities and I do the same when he’s sick.

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That’s not how our household functions. Sorry you’re having a tough time.

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