I’m 23 years old and I have 3 children with my husband that are 4,3, and 1. My husband isn’t from America so his culture is much different than here in the US (keep in mind)

We’ve been together 5 years and he’s worked the entire time. I’ve been a stay at home mom, and we recently relocated a year ago. My husband hasn’t been able to find work so we’ve basically been living off of my parents. They’re kind loving parents and were happy to help, but like anyone… nobody wants to financially take care of someone else’s family forever. I’ve wanted to be a police officer my entire life and my husband knows this. I finally made it through the background check and everything and I was hired by the state. I start Tuesday. Since my husband found out about my job (that I worked so fucking hard for.. studied for my ged, saved money for my boots, etc) he’s been a complete dick and has a problem with literally everything. I don’t know yet what shift I’ll be working and he constantly says “you can only work first shift because I can’t deal with the kids all night long and I need you here” he also has a problem with the days I’ll be working and tells me “you can’t work weekends I never did” “if you think you can just step over what I want too then we can just get w divorce and you can find a daycare to watch the kids while you work” he also had an issue with me staying over night in the academy so I was driving 2 hours every day to get there and home. I’m feeling like every day we are inching closer and closer to divorce. I’m not going to give up on my dreams because he’s prideful. What would you do? We’ve argued about this constantly and Everytime we sit down to talk, it goes south quickly. I’m sick of feeling controlled.