Would I be in the wrong?
Ok so I’m in my 2nd trimester of pregnancy and I’m kinda scared to stay with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has some issues? I guess? He drinks and gets angry and will argue and tell me I’m ungrateful and I’m lazy and that I’m wrong for trying to be my own person, repeatedly say “I’m not yelling I’m not arguing” while he’s in the process of slamming doors stuff. He tried to defend himself by saying “oh well I just thought it was you” when he added a random girl on Snapchat told her he was single, no kids, called her beautiful and hoped to talk to her again btw IT WASNT ME. He take all the time about how he hates his family and that’s literally his exact words, “I hate my family, they are useless and only care about themselves, they never help me or want to see me” etc. etc. like his sister just had his nephew and he said “I don’t give a f*** about her or that baby” all because she asked him to help move a couch like 3 days before her due date that she would even pay him and he got pissed at her about that and blocked her and then jumped down my throat about how I still have his sisters number and I talk to her and stuff like first off I dropped everything 6 months ago to move 2.5 hours away from my family and everything to be with him, I have no friends here so I didn’t think it was a big deal that I was friends with his sister. I didn’t have anyone else. He’s gone the majority of the time for work. I had a job but I had to quit because I’m high risk and the doctor didn’t think a factory job was a good idea for me, I look at other jobs and do applications all the time even though he says “don’t worry about working, I can afford everything” but when he drinks and gets pissed off it’s always “things would be easier if you worked” “if we break up then you owe me for taking care of you” but like when I did have a job he stayed mad at me because he thought I was cheating on him. Like I don’t have ANY desire to cheat. It’s disrespectful. Anyways he also doesn’t understand how to raise a kid. He thinks there’s absolutely nothing wrong with putting a 2 month old on a kayak and going down the river in the middle of summer, I asked him what he would do if the baby fell out and he said “well I’m from Florida so my child will know how to swim” TWO MONTHS OLD and he said that he’s gonna start busting his or her lip when they get old enough if they cuss or back talk or whatever. My boyfriend was abused and went through a lot growing up and never coped with it so now he thinks it’s normal. He can’t even keep dog food at the house for his dog. Me ya know his pregnant girlfriend has to monitor what I eat so I can make sure I have enough food to last until I can get more. He even gets upset and stuff when I say something stinks and it’s making me sick, he says “stop using your pregnancy as an excuse, this never bothered you before” like I’m not and never have used my pregnancy as an excuse. And when we argue or whatever he will say things and then say “well I never said that stop making stuff up” like his own family has even told me to run while I still can. The only way I can safely leave this relationship without backlash is if I faked a miscarriage but I can’t do that because I love my baby but I also don’t want to raise my baby in the environment. I want to go home. He’s not physically abusive he just has a temper and I can never say how I feel or anything because to him it’s nothing. I don’t know what to do. He also bought my car which I offered to help pay for but he told me no and refused any money I gave him. He told me if we broke up that I could take the car but I’m scared
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.